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General / Re: I quit facebook
« Last post by rory on October 06, 2017, 08:24:43 PM »
to realize you can just have thoughts and experiences and not share them.

But it's such a weird sensation, right?! At least for a moment (and maybe this only applies to people who are particularly active on facebook - which I definitely was).

I've been on facebook for over 10 years, and maybe in college I took small breaks during times when I needed absolute focus, but they were so minimal and facebook wasn't the monster it is now then then I don't even really recall. Back then I was more apt to take breaks from forum posting and make myself log out of that, which I do remember doing and I do remember it being difficult.

Not being able to leave for the business makes sense. My work has had to re-structure some things for getting information to me because we centralized all communication, including schedules, on facebook. I thankfully did such minimal promotion with our businesses actual page, that it was acceptable for me to leave, for many that's not the case.

I always felt so tied to it because of show promotion. So far quitting facebook is the one somewhat positive consequence of my band falling apart. It has given me an opportunity to step away and I'm glad for the experience. I've been off of it for almost a month, and I have every intention of staying away until the new year. By then I may have enough momentum with new music projects that I may need an outlet to promote again.
General / Re: I quit facebook
« Last post by momitsnowme on October 06, 2017, 08:02:02 PM »
I think about it all the time. I couldn't quit outright because I use it for my business. I do often uninstall for several days to a week at a time and it usually feels really good, like there's just more SPACE.
I keep getting sucked back in though.
Whenever I take long breaks I realize that no one even notices I'm not active. It reinforces how shallow those interactions really are. It's not about real interaction at ALL. It's just about repeated dopamine hits from little bells and whistles disguised as socializing. It's really bizarre. I also think it has totally destroyed our ability to actually feel emotions about any world happening that doesn't directly involve us for more than 30 seconds.
Time for another Facebook break haha.
It is definitely a withdrawal process but it does feel so good after a couple days to realize you can just have thoughts and experiences and not share them.
General / I quit facebook
« Last post by rory on October 06, 2017, 05:37:39 PM »
and it's been pretty good to me.

I read more, and I play guitar a ton (which I'm primarily a bass player, so it's been nice to direct my musical attention to something I'm not as good at, and that sounds better by itself), and after the initial shock of not having constant reinforcement for every small online interaction wore off, the quiet has been nice.

I've often times felt like I was very bad at reaching out to people to hang out, but now that I don't have access to everyone I could ever hope to contact, it feels less stressful. When I see people, it's more exciting. It's frustrating to not share every little inane thought that reminds me of someone with that person, but it's also okay to just kind of let it roll off of me and be forgotten.

I'm adjusting to the break up of my band and the hiatus from booking shows. I hit a dismal spot and had some strong suicide contemplation with some mild acting out around it. I don't know for certain that it's all behind me.

I'm trying to find purpose in my life now that my goals of the last few years have been dashed before my eyes, leaving me little to show for it. For now I'm trying to embrace the simple quiet of doing things just for me.

I'm not sure what this thread is really about, I guess without facebook it seemed like a good idea to put my long-form thoughts here, since there's not much else going on here anyhow. Have you all quit before? Or maybe never really got into it in the first place?
General / Re: Worst Month Ever
« Last post by momitsnowme on October 06, 2017, 07:56:11 AM »
I'm sending you all my best thoughts. I so hope everything goes well in a couple weeks. I'm sure it's really hard to stay positive around her. You're doing great. Do you have anyone you can talk to? <3
General / Re: Worst Month Ever
« Last post by BlakeK on October 06, 2017, 05:32:27 AM »
How's it going Blake?
They found a spot on her lung when they did the chest xray so she goes in for a CT scan on Monday to see if it is cancer or something else. The 2 other moles they removed are not cancerous. She will have surgery in approximately 2 weeks to remove tissue from her forehead and will do a biopsy on lymph nodes in the face to see if the cancer has spread. Best case scenario is that she has the surgery, they get it all, and then she gets checked a couple times a year for 5 years. If it has spread they will keep doing surgeries until they get it all and she will have to see an oncologist to discuss additional options. I just hope that the spot on her lung isn’t cancer because if it is, it’s a whole other ball game. I will be so grateful if they can just do the surgery and get it all. I try to stay positive when I’m around her and my stepdaughter (who has settled down and not had as many issues lately) but I’m really scared and worried.
General / Re: Worst Month Ever
« Last post by momitsnowme on October 05, 2017, 08:41:41 PM »
How's it going Blake?
General / Re: Watcha readin?
« Last post by pronetoaccidents on October 05, 2017, 06:42:20 AM »
Anyone ever read blood meridian?
General / Re: Watcha readin?
« Last post by amanda on October 03, 2017, 06:07:22 PM »
I just finished Honor Girl by Maggie Thrash
General / Re: Watcha readin?
« Last post by lindsey on October 02, 2017, 02:38:31 AM »
About halfway through Swing Time by Zadie Smith. I love herrrrr
General / Re: What's everyone listening to?
« Last post by jerkemy on October 01, 2017, 04:01:25 PM »
I legitimately started crying in public listening to Adventures in Zoochosis for the first time.

what has 2 thumbs and 2 lacrymal glands and did the same thing
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