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General / Re: Louis CK
« on: December 01, 2017, 05:32:38 AM »
Isn't it kind f weird how the stuff about Chris came out right before this started happening on a huge scale? I feel like it shows how movements are kind of inevitable or something...like growing out of the wave of society and not spurred by one individual. I don't know

I was thinking the exact same thing the other day. It was weird timing. I guess the flood gates couldnt hold
It is really weird how it all happened. It seems like the Harvey Weinstein stuff spurred the movement towards outing people for doing terrible things to women. What’s also weird to me is that this kind of stuff has been talked about and commented on for decades and therefore it shouldn’t be that big of a supririse. I think for whatever reason people thought the Mad Men style of interacting with females was completely over. Like racism (at least prior to 2016 and the rise of Trump) it seems to have become more covert which made it difficult to know how rampant it is. It’s really sad and disappointing. I didn’t think it was this bad and some of the people who have beeen accused is shocking to me.


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General / Re: Louis CK
« on: November 23, 2017, 06:37:50 PM »

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General / Re: Louis CK
« on: November 17, 2017, 05:48:17 AM »
Blake, I think that's a really courageous and important reflection to have done and to share. You might like Marc Maron's latest wtf episode
Thanks. I’ll have to give it a listen. I don’t think I’m courageous at all, I’m actually afraid to talk about it because I don’t want to say the wrong thing and have others think I’m a bad person. I’ll just say that I behaved with certain women differently when I was younger. I think I chalked it up to it being as issue of closeness and knowing someone well but I’m not sure that’s the whole story. Different people do have different boundaries but I feel like I was making assumptions about other people’s  boundaries and pushing boundaries rather than starting from a position of being respectful and careful not to push boundaries. I thought it was funny when I was younger to push boundaries with both male and female friends and while I wasn’t doing certain things for sexual gratification I’m sure there were people who were made uncomfortable by it. The behaviors I’m talking about are butt slapping/grabbing and similar behaviors. I feel like the fact that I would push boundaries with some and not others speaks to how men often have different standards for different women and this, I’m sure, is based on power or perceived power and status.. I wasn’t thinking about that at the time but it’s something I became aware of after I got older and stopped partying (that’s usually but not always the context of the above mentioned behaviors). I’ve always been pretty timid when it comes to talking to women, especially if I’m interested in them romantically. I have always put forth an effort to make sure that consent was clear for sex and don’t think I have anything to be ashamed of when it comes to that. It’s the things that I would call “little things” that I’m now aware might not be so little and may have been viewed as sexual by others while not by me. That wasn’t my call to make and I wish I would have been more mature, considerate, etc.

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General / Re: Louis CK
« on: November 11, 2017, 07:44:37 PM »
2017. The year we learned that everyone sucks. The end of 2016 has us all suspecting as much but 2017 really hit the point home.

I’ve always thought I was was one of “the good ones” in regards to how I treat and view women but during the past couple of years I’ve come to the conclusion that I engaged in behaviors that may have been harmful to women when I was younger and always filed it under being “playful”. I’d like to make a separate thread about this because it opens a can of worms. I think it’s a conversation worth having if others want to talk

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General / Re: Harvey Weinstein
« on: October 19, 2017, 05:20:44 AM »
I just read an article about men who are coming forward now, discussing their experiences being sexually assaulted by more powerful (usually older) males. It seems that nearly every actress in Hollywood has a horror story about being sexually assaulted/raped. The narcissism and abuse of power is worse that I thought. I’m not naive and have always known that this happens but it seems commonplace. I’m not even sure how one would go about effecting change.

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General / Re: Harvey Weinstein
« on: October 12, 2017, 07:21:12 PM »
I'm just going to have black daughter so I'm all covered.
You’d better make sure she’s gay because if not you’ll never be able to say terrible things about gay people and have it be a-ok.

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General / Re: Harvey Weinstein
« on: October 12, 2017, 05:21:45 AM »
I’ve been really sick the past 2 days so I may not have formed or communicated my thoughts as well as I could or should have. I guess the “but I have daughters!” defense for why one can’t be sexist, misogynistic, a rapist, etc is pretty much the same thing as saying “but I have a black friend!” when accused of being racist.

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General / Re: Worst Month Ever
« on: October 11, 2017, 06:09:57 PM »
We found out that the spot on Amanda’s lung was nothing to worry about so fingers crossed that on 10/24 they are able to get it all and that be the end of it

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General / Re: Harvey Weinstein
« on: October 11, 2017, 05:52:24 PM »
Apparently Ben Affleck and Matt Damon are two of Weinstein’s enablers. www.yahoo.com/entertainment/ben-affleck-matt-damon-become-guest-stars-harvey-weinstein-scandal-171213233.html?exp=vv

I’d also like to second the motion that people stop throwing out the “but we have daughters!” defense any time something like this happens. We all know daughters are special little princesses which just goes to show that we think of them differently than others and it’s silly to try and pretend that because a man has a daughter that he doesn’t treat other women like crap. Hopefully they don’t treat other women like crap but there are obviously different standards.

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General / Harvey Weinstein
« on: October 10, 2017, 05:29:11 PM »
I just got online and started looking at recent news and saw the story about newly outed (at least to my knowledge) sexual assaulter, Harvey Weinstein. I guess what pisses me off almost as the act itself is the knowledge that this has surely been relatively well known in Hollywood and his coworkers who are acting outraged now have most likely been helping him keep a kid on this for years. Of course I don’t know that for a fact but given how most of these cases go, I’ll bet it’s the case. I really hope that I could say that if I were in a similar position I’d do something more than perhaps scold the person behind closed doors. I guess one never knows unless they’re in that position though. I need to read about how all of this came to the public’s attention.

EDIT: I saw this on Wikipedia and thought it was interesting  “In September 2009, Weinstein publicly voiced opposition to efforts to extradite Roman Polanski from Switzerland to the U.S. regarding a 1977 charge that he had drugged and raped a 13-year-old, to which Polanski had pleaded guilty before fleeing the country. Weinstein, whose company had distributed a film about the Polanski case, questioned whether Polanski committed any crime, prompting Los Angeles County District Attorney Steve Cooley to insist that Polanski's guilty plea indicated that his action was a crime, and that several other serious charges were pending.”

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General / Re: Worst Month Ever
« on: October 08, 2017, 01:58:46 PM »
I'm sending you all my best thoughts. I so hope everything goes well in a couple weeks. I'm sure it's really hard to stay positive around her. You're doing great. Do you have anyone you can talk to? <3
I have a therapist I will see on Saturday. I’ve been seeing her for years. My mom is pretty great. Thank you for your  kind words

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General / Re: Worst Month Ever
« on: October 06, 2017, 05:32:27 AM »
How's it going Blake?
They found a spot on her lung when they did the chest xray so she goes in for a CT scan on Monday to see if it is cancer or something else. The 2 other moles they removed are not cancerous. She will have surgery in approximately 2 weeks to remove tissue from her forehead and will do a biopsy on lymph nodes in the face to see if the cancer has spread. Best case scenario is that she has the surgery, they get it all, and then she gets checked a couple times a year for 5 years. If it has spread they will keep doing surgeries until they get it all and she will have to see an oncologist to discuss additional options. I just hope that the spot on her lung isn’t cancer because if it is, it’s a whole other ball game. I will be so grateful if they can just do the surgery and get it all. I try to stay positive when I’m around her and my stepdaughter (who has settled down and not had as many issues lately) but I’m really scared and worried.

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General / Re: Worst Month Ever
« on: September 30, 2017, 07:49:17 PM »
I just needed to rant. Other than my mom, I really don't have many people I feel like I can talk to openly and honestly. I like to be the helper and have a hard time asking for help. I appreciate your offer, Jer.

We will see what happens on Monday. My stepdaughter seems to be in a better mood today, Addy has been sweet and playful, and my wife has been in good spirits. It's been a good day and I'm thankful for that. Hopefully it will continue into tomorrow.

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General / Re: What's everyone listening to?
« on: September 30, 2017, 07:43:44 PM »
I love all their albums to different and equal degrees at this point, but Supporting Caste and Failed States took me a few extra listens to really sink in. I had to sit with the lyric sheets and let it dissolve in but now they have some of my favorite songs. This one really hit hard from the first drop. I legitimately started crying in public listening to Adventures in Zoochosis for the first time. Lower Order is a poppy but powerful song that, honestly, slapped the sense back into me irt my veganism - it's been easy for me to just have it be a habit and not something I think about. Cop Just Out Of Frame is really powerful on a few levels. Call Before You Dig is, imo, a great soft nihilist anthem haha. They're all fucking bangers.
This is the best album of the past 10 years in my opinion. I've had a chance to sit and read the lyrics while listening and I'm blown away by this album. Adventures in Zoochosis is perfect. I was listening while playing with my daughter and it hit me pretty hard.  I can't recommend this album enough, especially to old people like me (and Jer).

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General / Worst Month Ever
« on: September 29, 2017, 06:06:19 PM »
So September is almost over and I am pretty sure it's the worst month me and my family (specifically members of my household) have ever had.

I won't go into too much detail but my stepdaughter has been having a really tough month and the things she has done and things she is going through have been equally hard on me and her mom.

My daughter's eating has been a source of anxiety for quite a while as she spits up A LOT. We finally got it somewhat under control by buying the more expensive premixed formula but this week she's has fevers off and on and has been fussy. Turns out she has Hand, Foot, and Mouth disease which isn't serious but is stressful in the midst of everything else.

This past Monday we found out my wife has melanoma skin cancer and a rare, very serious form at that. We have to go 3 counties over to find a doctor who specializes in it. We will find out more on Monday.

My wife and stepdaughter are at the ER right now trying to find out why my stepdaughter has had a migraine for 2 days and no energy. This has been the least of her problems this month though.

Addy finally fell asleep after eating and being very fussy and I just had a moment to reflect. We had to replace our dishwasher which was a nightmare and before that we had a leak under the upstairs sink which caused water to drip on our ceiling. The ceiling was a $400, week and a half ordeal. Those last two things are the least of our worries but it has all added up. Oh and TMI but I've had hemorrhoids all month. Yay!

I am worried about my stepdaughter and even more so about my wife. I feel like I am under as much stress as I can handle and I can only imagine how hard this is for my wife. I have to be very positive but I'm actually very scared and worried.

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General / Re: What's everyone listening to?
« on: September 29, 2017, 05:50:56 PM »
The whole album is on YouTube of course so here's the playlist

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL48dyrcoVa_iBfqel_escMN1BdR5yoUTP

I can't wait until I get a while to actually sit down and enjoy the album

EDIT: I love this album. It's their best since Potemkin City Limits in my opinion. It's at least as good as Supporting Caste though since it's new and shiny, I may just be caught in the moment. It's got the thrash/metal elements but it also has more of a punk feel than Failed States.

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General / Re: Help me and my wife watch It?
« on: September 24, 2017, 09:04:48 AM »
We watched it using popcorn time. Not the greatest quality but good enough to watch. Definitely liked it but I don't feel like it is THAT much better than the original miniseries. I guess I'd have to go back in time and have 8 year old Blake watch both to be fair because much of the appeal of the original is nostalgia for how I felt when I first watched it. I do think this one is scarier though I liked how they developed characters and their bond in the original. It just seemed like these kids barely knew each other but maybe that's how it is in the book

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General / Re: What's everyone listening to?
« on: September 21, 2017, 05:34:47 AM »
That's perfect! I have seen Lethal Weapon 1 and 2 probably over 200 times each. My mom loved Mel Gibson when I was a kid (before everyone found out he's a piece of shit) and so I saw a lot of his movies. My favorite was Lethal Weapon 2.

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General / Re: What's everyone listening to?
« on: September 17, 2017, 07:27:05 AM »
7 Seconds are straight edge too. You took my horrible joke.
Damn, I fucked up that in nearly every way possible. I should have known 7 Seconds are straight edge. Just another reason to have my punk card revoked.

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General / Re: Help me and my wife watch It?
« on: September 17, 2017, 07:21:58 AM »
If no one responds within a day or two I'll find this for you. Normally I'd do it quicker, but a little busy sorry :(
I completely understand. If you do get the time it would be much appreciated but if not, we can wait and hopefully find a babysitter next week.

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General / Help me and my wife watch It?
« on: September 16, 2017, 05:19:13 PM »
We can't find a sitter and we really want to watch It. All of the torrent sites I used to go to are gone. Can someone please help us watch It? Streaming or torrents are fine.

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General / Re: What's everyone listening to?
« on: September 15, 2017, 06:53:25 PM »
7 Seconds would be so good if they just relaxed and had like one beer.
7 Seconds would be so good if they just relaxed and had like one beer.
I used to say the same thing about Minor Threat.

Ya'll are crazy they're perfect
I was just joking/trolling with the Minor Threat comment because ya' know, straight edge. I need to work on my trolling.

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General / Re: What's everyone listening to?
« on: September 10, 2017, 05:21:42 PM »
7 Seconds would be so good if they just relaxed and had like one beer.
I used to say the same thing about Minor Threat.

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General / Re: What's everyone listening to?
« on: September 08, 2017, 06:20:17 PM »
Is it weird that I've been listening to a lot of the poppier rock that I used to roll my eyes at as a teenager/college student? All American Rejects are pretty heavy in rotation right now. Maybe I always liked bands like this but supressed the urge to listen due to fears of being ridiculed by the cool punk kids. It kind of sucked because I never quite fit in with the punk crowd but I really wanted to, I just didn't go full regalia like some. I'm not sure why. It's probably the early 90s grunge streak I had and was hanging onto way past the expiration date.

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General / Re: WTF
« on: September 07, 2017, 05:41:42 AM »
I'm not sure if the victim who first posted the allegations is the same person I'm thinking of in the google doc but one of the victims said that they decided to come forward in large part due to the Trump "grab em" tape. I then wondered that if Trump wouldn't have run for President, would this have come out? It also is really disappointing and crazy to think that Chris essentially did the types of things Trump bragged about having done. It just sucks because it just seems as I get older and interact with people more that there aren't a whole lot of people who don't have a very dark side to them.


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